The Internet supports mom in keeping the child away from the chain-smoking grandmother

Members of a popular online forum were very supportive of a mother who said she was refusing to allow her mother to visit her new baby.

in viral form reddit The post posted on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Routine-Customer2635 described her mother as a “habitual smoker” and emphasized that this was her reason for keeping her baby as far away as possible.

entitled “[Am I the a**hole] For “not to let my mother be a grandmother”? Mail It has garnered nearly 9,000 votes and 1,600 comments in the last 12 hours.

When she wrote that her mother was very excited that she had a grandson and talked “nonstop” about the boy’s presence when he grew up, the original poster said she would love for it to happen but made it clear Why don’t you allow this right now.

“She’s a regular smoker,” OB wrote. “She smokes in her car like nobody’s business. She has a room for three seasons with glass windows to smoke inside, so it’s basically part of her interior.

“I was disgusted as a child that she would smoke with me in the car and when I asked her to stop she would just say she is the parent and she should do whatever she wants,” the OP continued.

“I don’t want my child to visit and be surrounded by smoke on a second and third hand,” OB added. “When I told her that I was offended and she told me that I was depriving her of being a grandmother.”

Although every cigarette pack comes with a label warning that smoking can cause lung cancer and heart disease, smokers aren’t the only ones at risk when spraying a lighter.

Second-hand cigarette smoke, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (Center for Disease Control), contains more than 7,000 chemicals and has killed more than 2.5 million adult non-smokers since 1964.

Children — unable to distance themselves from toxic plumes thrown by parents, grandparents, and other family members — are also exposed to secondhand smoke and often experience serious health problems, including asthma attacks, respiratory infections, ear infections, and sudden infant death syndrome.

Over time, fewer and fewer adults in the United States are reporting smoking regularly And in 2020, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reported that only 12.5% ​​of Americans smoke, down from 20.9% in 2005.

However, for people of previous generations, smoking is as natural as breathing.

In the case of smoking grandparents, the family website Very Well Mind recommends parents set strict boundaries with their parents, and keep all smokers away from their children — no matter how difficult the process may be.

Setting limits around parents’ smoking [is] Particularly difficult, because smokers uphold their “right” to smoke while exposing your child to… the health risks of secondhand smoke and secondhand smoke,” the site reads.

“As a parent, you have a responsibility to protect your children from the harmful effects of smoke,” she continues. “Limits should be set with your parents who smoke in order to protect your child.”

But while Very Well Mind also recommends compromise with grandparents about smoke-free times and locations, the original poster said she wasn’t interested in budge at all. If her mother continues to smoke, she will not see her grandson – explained O.B.

Mother arguing with her grandmother about smoking
Members of the r/AmITheA** hole on Reddit defended a mother who said she would not allow her mother to visit her newborn because she is a smoker.
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During the comments section of the viral post, Redditors praised the original publisher for prioritizing her child’s well-being and assured the mother that she has her rights to refuse to visit grandparents, especially if it means save her baby healthy.

“[Not the a**hole]Redditor u/Sherbet_Lemon_913 wrote in the top comment of the post, which got over 15,000 votes. If there is ever a reason to quit smoking, it is this. “

“Tell her that you are the parent and you have to do whatever you want,” they added.

Redditor u/PaganCHICK720, whose comment has more than 1,000 votes, echoed that sentiment.

They wrote: “Your child’s health outweighs her need to be a grandmother and not the other way around.” This is what should be defined as a hard line without negotiations.

Redditor u/SassyPieHole173, with over 2,300 votes, added: “Your mother is denying herself the right to be a grandmother because of her choices in life.” “It’s okay for you to smoke, but it’s also okay for other people to make their own life choices about whether or not it affects them.”

NEWSWEEK u/Routine-Customer2635 has been reached for comment.