Posted in redditForum r/AmITheA** The famous slot, a woman under the username u/Throwaway64246 shared her story to forum followers to find out if she was wrong for being angry with her husband. The viral post has more than 5,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The Redditor says she’s been in a wheelchair since 2019. To get from place to place, she’s dependent on it the husband. A while ago, he’d drop her off at his mom’s house and disappear for hours. She says she has nothing against her mother-in-law, but she does not like to go out for long periods of time. He always blames being late for work or traffic. He won’t answer her texts or calls, only when his mom calls.
Recently, the original publisher (OP) told that he had been invited to a friend’s engagement party and she said she wanted to go with him. He told her that it would be better if he stayed with his mother until he came back. In response, she said she’d rather stay at home because he got annoyed with her answer and told her he’d take her to the party instead.
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She explained, “He stopped at his mother’s house and dropped me off there, I asked him why we were at his mother’s house and not at his friend’s party. He said he had an hour before the event and had to get some work done urgently and he’s coming back for me and we’ll both go to the party.”
“He left and I stayed inside with his mum. We talked and she brought me coffee and sweets. An hour passed and I started calling him, he didn’t answer at first but then he switched off his phone later. I got so angry and kept calling even though I knew his phone was off. I asked his mum to try calling him And it was still closed. I waited 3 hours and just found out he lied about taking me to the party.”
She called her sister to pick her up. Her mother-in-law said it was not a good idea because her husband told his mother not to let her leave until he came back. She ended up going home while her sister stayed with her all night because her husband never came home and didn’t answer his phone.
The next day, he came home and was upset that she had left his mother’s house without him. He confessed to her that he had lied and went to the party solo, saying it would be “boring and uncomfortable” for her and he would have found it more enjoyable to be with his mother, “admiring her new plants.” He told her he was too drunk and spent the night at a friend’s house, and she confirmed that he stayed the night by talking to the friend.
“We had the biggest argument about it and I told him what he did was not acceptable but he said I overreacted because it wasn’t like he dumped me in public and he said that by leaving I hurt his feelings and his mother’s feelings” I said I wouldn’t argue about it yet Now, but he said I acted childishly and threw a fit for not attending an event for 3 hours which he himself thought was petty and classless.”
The ETA community was quick to defend the OP over her anger at her husband.
“This is one hundred percent abuse,” warned u/definitely Janine 5, receiving the top comment with over 18,000 upvotes, “He takes advantage of your condition and abandons you because he knows you are physically unable to stop him. He’s sick and that’s disgusting, I think you’re You need to treat this as a real wake-up call.”
“Your husband is lying to you. What he’s hiding, specifically, is debatable, but he has enabled his mother to co-plot (even if you’re not aware of the details) in his scheme. He’s using your wheelchair-restricted mobility as a way to do other things without you. I I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. But you sure are [Not the A**hole]. Your husband highlights you on a huge level,” u/GrandpaJoeSloth said.
U/lihzee wrote, “[Not the A**hole]. Umm, why are you staying with your husband at this point? He dumps you in front of his mom over and over again to go do anything. He doesn’t seem to care about your wishes. How hurt his feelings to leave his mother’s house? It looks like he’s intent on doing something and is trying to get you out of his way.”
U/latoofarabumba exclaimed, “[Not the A**hole]. You must get rid of this capable, offending, ah at once. He literally uses your handicap against you and controls your movement. It’s disgusting. You deserve much better! “
NEWSWEEK u/Throwaway64246 has been reached for comment.