Mental health expert shares red flags on dating profiles

In a TikTok video that’s now going viral, a mental health expert discusses what might make her not match someone on a dating app.

Share Karli Kucko, LPC-A the video On her account @karli.k.counsing which has garnered more than 100,000 views. Her video, which discussed seeing people claim their profiles, was the first of many to touch on behaviors that would cause her to “swipe left”.

Viewers found these points helpful, and many shared what they saw as red flags when they perused the dating apps themselves.

good morning america I outline a few tips for having a strong dating profile, which include users posting good quality photos, writing “enough” about themselves and standing up to the top with their intentions.

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A mental health expert has shared a now viral video explaining what she said makes her swipe left on someone’s dating profile. Above, a stock image of a woman browsing a dating app.
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Matthew Hussey A The New York Times The author and bestselling dating expert told the outlet that there is a way to be open and honest while staying positive.

“If you’re going to say you want something serious, put it in a positive, not a negative,” he said. “You don’t want to look bitter or tired.”

In Kucko’s first video, she said something that would make her “swipe left” was seeing someone claim their profile. She noted that phrases such as “you must have, can’t do, must do,” were some examples of phrases that led to her mismatching with someone.

“You are allowed to have preferences and even non-negotiables in a relationship, but when you come out swinging your profile by telling me all the things I should do or should have, it sends me the message that ‘if you’re inflexible, you have A closed mind about some things or you might think about your lifestyle and the way you do things better than others.”

Viewers took to the comments section to share their thoughts and opinions on the first red flag that Kucko shared.

Some wrote that there are some aspects in which people do not need to be more flexible and can be sure of what they are looking for in a partner.

One viewer wrote, “I feel like there’s nothing wrong with not being flexible about things you know won’t automatically go along with you.”

“Yes but also – men and women – what if they lived long enough to know what [they] Want/need in their *relationship*? Another commented.

Kucko replied to this comment with Another videosaying she supports having non-negotiable boundaries, but that there is a way someone can communicate those needs that reflect what is important to them, rather than demanding of others.

It conveys a message of who I am and what I want instead of ‘You need to do this, you need this,’ Coco said.

Although some questioned the red flag, many others found it helpful and even shared their own opinions.

“I always pull left when I see, ‘Let’s just hang out and see where this goes! One viewer commented that it’s a 100% red flag for non-committal situations.

Another wrote: “These people always rub me the wrong way.”

One shared that he would “swipe left” when he saw “fluent sarcasm” and “be able to take a joke”.

One viewer commented: “Anytime a profile tells me about me instead of telling me about it – swipe left.”

Since posting the first video, Kucko has shared other clips where she touched on what would make her swipe left, including seeing someone’s profile saying they rarely check the app and learning that someone has very different political views than her own.

NEWSWEEK I reached out to Carly Cuoco for more comments.

Other content related to online dating has already gone viral.

a Viral screenshot shared on reddit The Tinder forum showed a profile of a woman who declared that she was only interested in dating tall men.

One woman video The rude text messages she received from a guy she matched with on Bumble also featured on TikTok.

Another TikTok user She shared her experience of spending a year without using any dating apps in a viral video.